Navigating Without a Mentor

My Army Experience (Not Recommended)

When my daughter's boyfriend and various podcasters asked if I had a mentor during my time in the Army, my answer was straightforward: no, I didn't. Looking back, I wish I had one, as a mentor could have provided invaluable guidance through the ups and downs. However, I often wonder if any mentor had the patience to deal with my unique challenges. I had learning problems, and the fact that I was in the Army was a mystery to me and a blessing. In retrospect, I highly recommend seeking out as many mentors as possible.

Without a mentor, I relied heavily on my instincts and keen observation. My creative streak guided my decisions, sometimes leading to success but also landing me in trouble. This contrasts with my approach in the civilian educational system, where I strategically chose tutors and counselors and balanced easier classes with more challenging ones.

In the Army, while consultants and career advisors were available, I rarely utilized them, except when trying to secure a specific assignment—which often didn’t work out for me. The only assignment I truly wanted and managed to get was in Korea, primarily because it was a high-turnover post that few desired. Coming from the bottom, I often felt I wasn’t good enough to be an officer in secrecy, experiencing a sense of being out of place despite enjoying the privileges and pay associated with officership. 

Additionally, I kept quiet about my slow learning problems, taking time to work through things on my own. I avoided the political dynamics, which didn’t sit well with the establishment, and I rarely trusted my peers or superiors. This independent path was rocky; if not, I would not have published the memoir A Soldier Against All Odds. In short, I strongly recommend finding a mentor for anyone entering military service, as they can provide crucial support and guidance.

Jason Pike

Veteran, Bestselling Author & Inspiring Speaker

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